tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.comments2010-12-30T17:08:59.343-08:00Journey to SelfMalouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-14766382475934321392010-12-30T17:08:59.343-08:002010-12-30T17:08:59.343-08:00Thanks INRIS! Glad to see you stop by. I wish you ...Thanks INRIS! Glad to see you stop by. I wish you all the best in the new year and all the love and happiness that we both deserve ;) hope to keep in touch....Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-84968116850126375042010-12-30T01:41:16.062-08:002010-12-30T01:41:16.062-08:00This. Is. Awesome.
Best of success and love to yo...This. Is. Awesome.<br /><br />Best of success and love to you and your paramour. May everything work out for the best, whether it be with the two of you, or you and someone else down the road. You deserve love and happiness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-58414979929780710212010-06-20T20:49:30.774-07:002010-06-20T20:49:30.774-07:00hey great post! i often wonder how people think ex...hey great post! i often wonder how people think exactly as each thought passes in their mind, mixes in with other thoughts, and thereby form logic constructs. with your blog i can dip in your thoughts as you were thinking it.<br /><br />with respect to this happiness topic, i had a eureka moment while reading it. I realized this material world would have us without self-love and happiness and give snippets of happiness here and there subject to our milestones of personal achievements.<br /><br />Time of course binds these achievements. We will be happy, we will love ourselves in the far future subject to completion of this and that goal. This assures each one of us to be miserable today, this hour, this moment.<br /><br />We are so used to the chase the carrot in a stick, lab rats fed food when entering the correct path in a maze. Our defeatist thinking in the society assures as lab rats to get electric shocks when we walk on the wrong groove in the maze.<br /><br />As the great mystics and physicists say all time & space are illusions. I choose my happiness now. I bring about self-love here and now than 5 years from now. No pre-conditions, no ifs, no buts.<br /><br />For like air and water, love is a necessity, not a luxury. It is the pursuit of all young and old, small and mighty. Let us examine the rotting hearts of ours filled with anger, resentment, envy and fear, yield to love, yield to the stream of God. Let's not be fooled by time & space, of pre-conditions that clouds our minds, here is the gift of love, right here, right now.philnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-57414413468239425052010-06-14T07:15:03.247-07:002010-06-14T07:15:03.247-07:00hello gurl, thank you for revealing and sharing yo...hello gurl, thank you for revealing and sharing your thoughts over this philosophical concept which can be rather complicated or easily overlooked if not properly read and understood.<br /><br />we tune thoughts to major learnings by small concepts acting like a dial on a radio set to tune to a radio station. such is the beauty given by blogs, or books. blogs/books serves as only mediums to the gems of thoughts being delivered. <br /><br />Jor-El encoded his thoughts on crystals for his son Clark Kent or Superman. Jor-El is to his crystals as you are to your blog to all of us readers.<br /><br />I pity on people who would have benefited by reading your writings, given the chance and time to do so, but have elected to be apathetic instead. They would have learned much from you. It is not your loss but theirs. Perhaps the value of their time is only measured by the thickness of their wallets. That bearer of this moral cancer who have chosen to compromise the richness of character will have to revisit his or her values as history have shown us.<br /><br />Swinging back to what you have written, I feel gratitude more. I saw it through your writings, and I have realized it is not that we appreciate the small things that makes us happy to compromise on huge and bigger happiness. No, such is not the case. I realized big happiness can only be substantiated by small happiness to make a tapestry of the thing we call big happiness. There is no such thing as big happiness not composing of small little happiness we pick-up along the way.<br /><br />Thank you for this thought, and as always I enjoy your writing :-)Philipnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-8847681408319921682010-06-04T08:15:22.518-07:002010-06-04T08:15:22.518-07:00And the universe responds to you with, "You&#...And the universe responds to you with, "You're welcome."<br /><br />Another great article so I should be thankful to you, too, for having a good and inspiring read every time I visit your blog.<br /><br />I forget from which "silent companion" I got it from, but when you give thanks for something you still don't have, you are sure to get it.<br /><br />So keep on being thankful and give thanks to the Higher Power for giving you what you now and will need!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04295521806096117226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-8916497441368543962010-06-04T07:18:18.000-07:002010-06-04T07:18:18.000-07:00Thanks Jolene! It is indeed an amazing feeling. Gl...Thanks Jolene! It is indeed an amazing feeling. Glad to see you here :-)Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-13723682730016737332010-06-03T18:20:44.948-07:002010-06-03T18:20:44.948-07:00Wow, this is amazing...I LOVE this. Thankfulness i...Wow, this is amazing...I LOVE this. Thankfulness is such a powerful emotion and feeling after going through a tough journey. Awesome post, and so glad you for you!Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325463416827122179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-39167706022075022842010-03-30T07:06:49.991-07:002010-03-30T07:06:49.991-07:00Thanks Jolene! I am looking forward to see what...Thanks Jolene! I am looking forward to see what's around the bend too..it's a great feeling to finally wake up with excitement rather than dread :-) Really hope we can get together for that coffee one day..Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-45462812913588229142010-03-29T17:02:55.707-07:002010-03-29T17:02:55.707-07:00great post - I totally know what you mean - sheddi...great post - I totally know what you mean - shedding the old, figuring out the new, and tackling unchartered territory. You have hope, you have optimism, and that's a great outlook to have. Looking forward to see what's around the bend for you!Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325463416827122179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-35789678118831972782010-03-28T15:16:14.833-07:002010-03-28T15:16:14.833-07:00I am proud to be my father's daughter. As for ...I am proud to be my father's daughter. As for his greatness, it lies in many different things that make up his whole person. As for the writing - what do you think? He was the one who showed me the power and beauty of words. Hence, for me, he taught me to write.Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-67764478397786806732010-03-18T08:39:13.243-07:002010-03-18T08:39:13.243-07:00Your father must be very proud of you, and even mo...Your father must be very proud of you, and even more proud that you have written this tribute. Reading this is like already knowing a lot about your father and his worth. But not really since I have known him by knowing you - someone confident, able, and strong. But was he a great writer, too?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01349234501730994944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-18553506769454822242010-02-13T15:57:22.934-08:002010-02-13T15:57:22.934-08:00Malou,
I'm honored to be a part of your blog ...Malou,<br /><br />I'm honored to be a part of your blog family and visa versa. Thanks for visiting!<br /><br />As for adding a super secret, anonymous blog... go for it. This way, you can vent, as you say, without there being collateral damage. I have benefited <i>greatly</i> by having this venue to spill my spleen without worry of hurting those around me.<br /><br />It's quite liberating.<br /><br />Onward and upward!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-88525058575632622782010-02-10T05:08:31.282-08:002010-02-10T05:08:31.282-08:00Thanks Never Rains :-) actually, there is more to ...Thanks Never Rains :-) actually, there is more to that...i guess i didnt mind using my real name as this forum is only to be concentrated on me and my journey inwards...although there is now a need surging up in me to open another blog anonymously this time, as I am beginning to want to have a platform where I can just vent out my raw emotions and angst.....and in that case, some people might be hit...:-S <br /><br />What do you think? <br /><br />I went into your blog and have now added it to my list...i hope you don't mind being added to my blog family. The best for you as well and I have no doubt that we will find ourselves on the other side, stronger and brighter than ever.Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-49547369105893601802010-02-10T02:31:34.302-08:002010-02-10T02:31:34.302-08:00Choosing to go by your real name shows a certain s...Choosing to go by your real name shows a certain strength.<br /><br />Likewise, so does choosing an alias. As I've seen quoted elsewhere:<br /><br />“Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.” -Oscar Wilde<br /><br />By donning a mask, I am (somewhat) free to say what I choose about work, children, or soon-to-be-ex-wife without (much) fear of recrimination. And also... without the baggage of preconceived notions.<br /><br />But therein lies the rub: with a real name comes a real person behind it. With a pseudonym comes a ghost in the machine, and there's that much more work necessary to establish that there is, in fact, a real person behind it.<br /><br />A very thought-provoking post. <br /><br />Best of success to you as you rebuild yourself... just as I hope for the same as I do likewise!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-18125474726897979852010-02-09T01:59:39.535-08:002010-02-09T01:59:39.535-08:00Hi Delaine,
Thank you for your comments and your...Hi Delaine, <br /><br />Thank you for your comments and your advise. I will definitely look into that and carefully gauge whether in my attempt to be real, I am not actually crucifying myself :-)Malouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-34469112247169972772010-02-08T22:41:43.270-08:002010-02-08T22:41:43.270-08:00Hi Malou - I think your writing is marvellous, lik...Hi Malou - I think your writing is marvellous, like melting butter. I loved the article you wrote for us on DivorcedWomenOnline and it's wonderful you're sharing your talent online. <br /><br />Regarding your usage of your real name, I totally understand why you chose to use it and I take my hat off to you. <br /><br />I will give you one word of caution though - I used my name on my site, I Am Divorced Not Dead, for reasons similar to your own as well as the fact I needed to create a platform for my book. The PROBLEM is that everything I've written about dating and sex (you WILL have stories and new issues to figure out in that area), my ex tries to use against me, both personally and legally. <br /><br />I don't know if that's a concern for you or not. Thought I'd throw it out there to you, just in case.Delainehttp://www.divorcedwomenonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-52873070131357926822010-02-05T10:50:55.929-08:002010-02-05T10:50:55.929-08:00Ah, the crying season. Mine lasted about 3 months ...Ah, the crying season. Mine lasted about 3 months also.<br /><br />I remember when it stopped. I was laying in the bed and as suddenly as they had begun the tears stopped.<br /><br />I can remember thinking to myself, "this is a beginning, not an ending." And that is when the rebuilding started.<br /><br />The tears paved the way for me to become who I am today. Without them I would have remained lost in the loss.Cathyhttp://www.divorcedwomenonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-44874337967785430052010-02-04T08:17:44.226-08:002010-02-04T08:17:44.226-08:00A comment on the blogger - great job for a very we...A comment on the blogger - great job for a very well-written article much like the rest - filled with style, prose, and pizzazz - much like Malou herself...<br /><br />A comment on the article - we oftentimes fail to see the duality of life (and death). We are such spoiled creatures that we should laugh more and cry less. It's never one or the other as they always come together. And like laughing, crying is a release - a catharsis. So laugh your heart out and don't hold back the tears. It's always a good feeling either way afterwards...Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04295521806096117226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-16351738554199886062010-02-04T08:14:28.939-08:002010-02-04T08:14:28.939-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04295521806096117226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-91653448179274656102010-02-04T06:50:20.134-08:002010-02-04T06:50:20.134-08:00Wonderfully written. I went through that phase as ...Wonderfully written. I went through that phase as well, of course, and cried daily, often, at least once or twice a day. Something I may weave into my blog series I'm writing as we speak. Loving your blog already.jolenehttp://tbdetermined.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-2786039478164909582010-01-30T02:29:35.944-08:002010-01-30T02:29:35.944-08:00Thanks Kellie! Glad that you liked my blog. And I ...Thanks Kellie! Glad that you liked my blog. And I do agree, if we let God into our lives, we open ourselves up to something bigger and brighter than we have ever imagined. <br /><br />See you around! :-)<br /><br />MalouMalouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798978957995458460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-6722605071549380392010-01-26T17:32:13.658-08:002010-01-26T17:32:13.658-08:00Hi! After reading your message on my blog that you...Hi! After reading your message on my blog that you had read one of my posts and wanted me to check out your blog here I am. <br /><br />I read your most recent post and I loved the way you had put things, much better than I had explained it. My relationships had always been me searching for someone to fix me but it doesn't work that way. Even as a christian, I had come to realize that we, who have been broken still hold onto this brokenness not allowing God to heal us. I found this out by marrying yet again but this time it was different, I married a christian man. He made me see that apart from God we are at a loss for repairing ourselves. Unlike you though, I do realize we are not alone even though in the most trying of times it may seem as though, but all we have to do is turn it over to God, our father and if we are saved He will guide us. Not to say we won't still have problems, but learning to trust in God and following His will for our lives we lead us on a journey that we will never forget. BUT WAIT...there is more, when that journey's over and we have passed on, that's when we wake up and the real journey begins only in this journey we are made perfect and we no longer need repairing. How awesome and amazing is that? <br /><br />Thank you for writing to me so I could read and share in your experiences, I will check your blog out again. <br /><br />God bless,<br /><br />Kellie NoonKelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15339430181945964698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-55306121182906502682010-01-23T15:30:11.684-08:002010-01-23T15:30:11.684-08:00thanks for sharing Malou, keep on writing!thanks for sharing Malou, keep on writing!josehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04325402634294687768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-49078856107855135772010-01-19T15:59:52.383-08:002010-01-19T15:59:52.383-08:00Thank you Malou for my night's literary and ph...Thank you Malou for my night's literary and philosophical fulfillment. In the way my musical penchant to listen to Tschaicovsky's Piano Concerto No. 1 every now and then to be stirred-up, my philosophical sweet tooth is filled-up by your newly-opened blog thoughts. So much mundane appearances and stereotypical thinking masks the greatness in each of us. <br /><br />My curiosity with which you described as pain sparks my curiosity more than ever. For if we created our own joys, we must have been the ones who created our pains. Is there any one we can attribute our pains? Surely since time immemorial, of history books written by the winners, the losers of wars have been the ones written to blame. For if not, the heroes will have blemishes upon their shining armors. That is the train tracks of the many that leads to nowhere.<br /><br />If we own our pains as equal as our joys, we have must have created them. We may not have the opportunity to correct the cause of the pain because we have not realized them as having detrimental effects in the future. Yet we always have our present moment to stop the cause so the effect will not happen again in the future.<br /><br />Life I realized is a slate we clean-up and start all-over again. So much powerful is our mind to create mega-structures of magnificent cities and equally destroy our lives with mistakes and pains. It is God who gives us the clean canvass to be creative again to paint a new life, as long as we realize that we do the brush strokes ourselves and nobody else.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200063524350788526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4852546013885249217.post-19588182051500014142010-01-19T13:27:37.558-08:002010-01-19T13:27:37.558-08:00@Tobacco Man: thank you. I hope you continue to p...@Tobacco Man: thank you. I hope you continue to pop in and look into my journey from time to time.Malounoreply@blogger.com